- What do women really want to hear men say?  The following list may seem obvious, but the authors of "Why Men Don't Get Enough Sex and Women Don't Get Enough Love" insist men don't say the obvious often enough:
* "Put on your best dress.  I'm taking you out for a surprise evening."
* "Let's take a walk together.  Just the two of us."
* "You are always so thoughtful (sensitive, caring)."
* "I love your eyes (legs, butt)."
* "You're the best wife a man could hope for.  You're my best friend."
* "When I think about you I get a warm feeling all over."
* "I'm taking your car in today for new tires because I love you and I want you to be safe."
* "I'm going to run an errand - is there something I can get for you while I'm out?"
* "It's just a little something I bought you to say how much I love you."

- Dr. Willard Harley in his book entitled His Needs, Her Needs points out the priorities of the sexes in the order of importance:
A man desires:
1.  Sexual fulfillment
2.  Recreational companionship
3.  An attractive spouse
4.  Domestic support
5.  Admiration of his wife
A woman desires:
1.  Affection
2.  Conversation
3.  Honesty and Openness
4.  Financial Support
5.  Family Commitment

- Have you been married before?
- Why did your previous marriage fail?
- Do you have children from a previous marriage?
- Have you been involved in the occult, taking drugs, alcohol, smoking, bad habits, addictions, rock music, premarital sex, etc?

- What do you do for a living?
2 Thes 3:10-12 (NAS) "For even when we were with you, we used to give you this order; if anyone will not work, neither let him eat.
11  For we hear that some among you are leading an undisciplined life, doing no work at all, but acting like busybodies.
12  Now such persons we command and exhort in the Lord Jesus Christ to work in quiet fashion and eat their own bread."
- Do you enjoy your work? (Survey - 50% all Americans are in the wrong job and consequently bring their frustrations home).
- Have you worked out a family budget?
- Have you agreed on who is going to manage the different aspects of finances in your home and how finances are to be spent?
- Are you in debt?
- What kind of strain is this going to place on your budget?
- Are you financially responsible?
- Have you set up a home?
- What common interests, sports or hobbies do you have?
- How much time do you spend in personal activities away from each other?  How does the other one feel about this?
- Are you getting married in 'Community of Property' or 'Antinuptual Contract'?  Are you in agreement about this?
- Have you made a will?  Are you in agreement about this?

- Have you educated yourselves on love making?
- Recommended material:-
1.  The Act Marriage by Tim la Haye.
2.  Gary Smally's marriage video's.
1 Cor 7:2b-5 (NAS) "...let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
3  Let the husband fulfill his (sexual) duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
4  The wife does not have authority (control-Greek) over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5  Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again lest Satan tempt you because of your lack of self-control."
- Do nots for Men: Wham bam - thank you ma'am.
- Do nots for Woman: Lie back and think of England as he satisfies his carnal desire.
- To be made mutually enjoyable.
Gen 2:25 (NAS) "And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed."
Mark 10:8-9 (NAS) "and the two shall become one flesh (i.e. consummate the marriage); consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh.
9  'What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.'"
Prov 5:18-19 (NAS) "Let your fountain (external genital organs, especially of the female - Hebrew) be blessed, And rejoice (a strong feeling promoted by some external stimulus - Hebrew) in the wife of your youth.
19  As a loving hind (deer) and a graceful doe (female deer), let her breasts satisfy (gratify, relieve, calm, soothe, tranquilize - Hebrew/Websters Thesaurus) you at all times; Be exhilarated (ravished, enraptured) always with her love."
Song 1:13 (NAS) "My beloved is to me a pouch of myrrh Which lies all night between my breasts."
Song 8:10 (TLB) "I am slim, tall and full-breasted, and I have found favor in my lover's eyes."
- Explain different sexual appetites (everyday or once a week).
- Communication in sex - tell what you enjoy and what you don't, what stimulates you and what doesn't, when you're ready, etc.
- Leading Johannesburg Gynaecologist - 80% of woman will never reach an by regular , but only by manual stimulation.
Gen 26:8 (NRS) "When Isaac had been there a long time, King Abimelech of the Philistines looked out of a window and saw him fondling his wife Rebekah."
- G-Spot, Clitoris, PC muscle (especially before and after babies).
- The most important sex muscle in a woman is the 2 lbs of grey matter between her ears.  She must have a good positive Biblical attitude toward sex.  Every husband wants his wife to be enthusiastic about sex and concentrate on what they're doing.
- Sexual disfunction - Engage in proper your first time and don't just try and do it.  (The wife may also have to help her husband).
- Keep yourselves looking good for each other for the rest of your lives.  Never give your partner an excuse to have to look anywhere else for sex or companionship.  Tell him, "Honey there's a full supply right here."

- Have you decided when you would like to start a family?  Are you in agreement about this?
- Have you seen your gynaecologist?
- Are you taking the necessary precautions?
- Have you considered the cost of each child - financially and on your relationship?
- Do you have a medical aid?

- This is a life long COVENANT before Almighty God - till death us do part.
- NEVER, NEVER cheaply threaten with divorce in the heat of an argument.
- Permanently SLAM the divorce door shut.
Mal 2:14-16 (NAS) "Yet you say.  'For what reason?  'Because the Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.
15  But not one has done so (divorced) who has a remnant of the Spirit.  And what did that one do while he was seeking a godly offspring?  Take heed then, to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of your youth.
16  'For I HATE DIVORCE,' says the Lord, the God of Israel, 'and him who covers his garment with wrong,' says the Lord of hosts.  'So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously."

- Plan and complete all your preparations in advance so you can relax and enjoy a fantastic memorable day for the rest of your lives.